How to Pray Big When You Feel Small

Hey there friend,

So, you have a big dream. Maybe a miracle that you’re desperately hoping for. Something that seems completely impossible — maybe some people have even told you that it’s impossible. Well, I’m here to tell you that it is 100% possible — if you’re willing to pray big.

I have shared a few stories with you about my journey and the big things I have prayed for — meeting my husband, finding our home, and launching this blog. And let me tell you, through all of those chapters of my life I learned one very important lesson: you can pray for big things even when you feel weak, unimportant, or feel like giving up. You can still pray big when you’re a mess and you’re feeling the weight of doubt and fear. You can still pray big when part of you is terrified that your prayer will never be answered.

If you have any major prayer that could be life-changing for you, please keep reading. If you’re feeling small in the shadow of your worry or burden or dreams, keep reading. We have so much power in prayer and we are not as small as we feel.

I’m breaking down 4 ways you can pray big even when you feel small.

Pray with Expectation

The most important thing you can do when praying for something major to happen in your life is believe. It may sound so ridiculously childish…but, friend, we must have complete faith in God’s ability to move mountains in our lives. That’s not to say you aren’t allowed to doubt or even prepare for the possibility that the answer you’re hoping for may not happen. However, your faith should greatly outweigh your doubt in those moments of praying. In the moments that you are laying your prayers before the Lord you should have absolute confidence that He hears you, He sees you, and He knows what is best for you. If you can pray with that kind of confidence then the waiting period between prayers will seem far less painful. He wants to do amazing things in our lives — those are the things He often uses to reach others — so be fully expectant of all of the unbelievable things He wants to do for you.

Pray with a Partner

Prayer is a powerful thing. But it is an unbelievably powerful thing when we pray with other Believers. Whether it is a close friend, a spouse, or even just someone else who is praying for something big in their life…praying together will make all the difference. Can I let you in on a little piece of my prayer life? I prayed about this blog for a long time. For more than a year. But I never saw it begin to take shape in my life until I told my husband about it and we started praying together. Just in the short time we have been married we have seen God work in amazing ways. Every time we have gone to Him in prayer together…He has completely blown our minds. So we continue to bring the big prayers to Him together. Sometimes that means we pray together before bed. Sometimes that means we pray individually throughout the day, yet pray for the same thing. Before David, I consistently sought out friends to help me lift those big prayers up. It can change your world. It changed the way I viewed prayer. I encourage you to be intentional and seek a prayer partner and then be prepared to see God work.

Pray with Contentment

I know that sounds crazy. But, hear me out on this. When we bring our prayers to the Lord, even the big giant ones that consume our every thought, we must do so with contentment. By that, I mean that we must come to a point of knowing that even if the answer we receive is not what we want, that God is still good, gracious, and has our very best interest at the top of His list. That is so much easier to say than it is to do…but it’s the truth. It took me a long time to accept that truth. In the post I wrote about praying for my husband I talk a little about the night I completely broke down with God and how that night ended with me saying “God, if it’s just you and me from here on out….then that’s enough for me.” I had to truly know in my heart that if He didn’t give me what I wanted or what  I believed I needed that I would still be okay, life would go on, and He would still be there through it all. So, before you lay down those prayers you have to lay down your own opinion of what is best for you. He knows far better than we do, friend.

Pray with Scripture

So often we forget about the one tool we have been given that is just as powerful as prayer: God’s Word. It’s not enough to just ask for what we want. We need to know what the Word says and include that in our prayer life. Praying God’s word over the giant prayers we have makes them seem so much more possible. Just look at all the amazing, unbelievable, completely impossible things that the Bible tells us happened for God’s people! His word is powerful and if we aren’t using it in our prayer life then we are seriously missing out.

Not sure where to turn to pray scripture over your life? Try The Psalms, Proverbs, and the Gospels.

I don’t know what your big prayer is. But I know I’ve had a lot of big prayers and He has always come through for me — even if the answer looks different from what I envisioned. There is nothing too big for God, friend. Those dreams you have that seem crazy and unattainable? He can make them happen. That miracle you need? He can provide it. That sorrow and heartbreak that is taking your breath away every morning? He can heal that hurt. In fact, there is a lot of healing in prayer.

Remember, it isn’t just about praying the right words or even making enough time to pray. It’s about truly laying it all down before Him and letting His will be done. We must try not to hold on to our prayers so tightly — just let them happen. Be a mess with Him. Cry and yell and be broken before him. Be ridiculously excited about your dreams — talk to Him about them. You don’t need the perfect words or the right timing; you just need Him and the peace He offers to those of us that turn to Him in our highest of highs and lowest of lows.

I want to help you with those big prayers, friend. So if you need someone to lift you up please reach out to me.


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Looking for a little more on this topic of praying big? I’ve got you, girl! After writing this post in the summer of 2018 it quickly rose to my most read post EVER. And my inbox was FLOODED with questions about prayer, prayer requests, and genuine curiosity about how prayer could change someone’s life. So, I decided to go a step further and offer you a 21-day devotional based on this post. This is a 3-week study intended to help you get back to the basics of prayer while also taking a more focused look at the power of approaching a communicative relationship with God. My hope and prayer is that through this study you will discover the unbelievably powerful process of prayer. CLICK HERE to check it out.

9 Comments Add yours

  1. Crystal says:

    My love is lost in his addictions. He relapsed about 5 weeks ago. He has a beautiful daughter that adores him. He needs a miracle. I would greatly appreciate your prayers!

    1. ssweetlyblog says:


      I am praying for you, sweet friend. I have experienced loved ones who struggle with addiction and it is not an easy burden. But I do know that there is great healing in the Father and that as long as you keep praying and shining His light, He will show you miracles you never expected. Please keep me updated on this — I will be praying for your loved one and his sweet daughter.


    2. Brittany says:

      wow. I just returned from a missions trip by myself to Guatemala (for my third time) and I absolutely love it there- the people, the culture, the ability to just love and serve on God’s people who desperately need it. And it’s my hearts greatest desperate desire to move down there. However I’m 19 and I’m also in college and feel that God is calling me to medical school (so essentially another 9+ years till I would be done schooling and residency and able to move down there). I spent my entire flight back yesterday sobbing, telling God my hearts deep desire but also praying for contentment with wherever He’s calling me to be right now, even if it’s not where I want to be, because His plan is so much better. And this morning I woke up and found this, totally a God thing. Thank you so much for these incredible words of truth!

  2. Leslie says:

    I am at a cross roads with my career. I was laid off from a job I worked for 20 years, and realize it was such a blessing. I have had time with my family that I was desperately lacking and had time to be there for my graduating senior, but I feel that it is time for me to go back to work to help support my family. I pray that God leads me down the path that allows me to do that but still have balance with my family. I am struggling with where to do that and what His plan is for me.

  3. Ornette says:

    I needed to hear this, especially now….thank you

  4. Corrin says:

    My boyfriend and I broke up/went on a break one week ago, and the past week has been the hardest but best week in my life. I’ve changed a lot since our conversation. We ended in a place of essentially him saying he needed space, he still has hope for us, but also can’t promise me anything. I just discovered your blog tonight and really needed to read this post. I want to pray big prayers that are filled with faith, but right now the voice that wants to be content with whatever God has for me is overpowering that faith.

  5. Jewels says:

    I’m in need in clarification & physical healing. I want to know what obstacles stand in the way of my healing. Thank you <3

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