I’ve shared my Date Night secret with you before: how I don’t plan much regarding the evening but rather have a curated date delivered to our door each month. So today I wanted to share with you how you can make the most of your Date Night In Box (or even your own DIY date night in) each month. As with most things, date nights are not always about what you do but how you approach it.
First things first, if you aren’t familiar with Date Night In Boxes, I would encourage you to jump over to the detailed post I shared here and read all about why we opt in for this subscription box each month that costs less than a dinner out at our favorite restaurant.
Okay, here are my tips for making the most of your Date Night In each month:
This first step is so important. Remember the excitement that would build up when you counted down the days to your date on Friday? I believe you can have that same anticipation after marriage. You just have to put in the work.
Date Night In Boxes provide you with a printable invitation to share with your spouse in each box. Plus, seeing the box arrive in the mail is a great way to get excited for what’s ahead.
I suggest opening your box together and gathering all the details right then and there. Determine how long it will take and really get familiar with the theme (each box has a different theme every month). Decide the day you are going to set aside for your Date Night and determine what will be for dinner. Date Night In Box provides a dinner menu to go along with the theme. But, I often like to make a fave recipe that I know my husband loves. I’ll even send out for take-out from time-to-time. I suggest doing whatever works best for your family. Maybe you grab dinner at a restaurant and bring dessert home to enjoy with your date box. What’s important is that you have a PLAN for what the evening will hold.
On the day of the date I suggest sending a thoughtful text or leaving a note for your spouse to remind them but also to let them know how excited you are to spend time together.
Set The Mood
Date Night In does a wonderful job of making this easy for you. They provide a complimentary playlist and typically include a candle or wax melts to help engage your senses. But, I suggest going a step further…
Make sure the area you are in for the evening is clean and free from anything that might make you think about stress — no bills on the table, no work related things in the room, and no little messes in the corner. The environment should be inviting and relaxing. We love to use our dining room table because it’s one of my favorite places in our home. Yours might be the living room or bedroom or your kitchen island. Whatever it is, make sure it’s a space you love. You can also make it super special and have a backyard picnic or go to a local park or lake to enjoy your box.
Setting the mood can also include how you present yourself. Of course, the perk of Date Night In is that you don’t have to put on your fancy clothes or makeup. So, I would suggest wearing something comfy but put together: athleisure, jeans and a tee, or even a cute set of pajamas. Run a brush through your hair, keep makeup simple or forgo it altogether. Pay attention to the details: a simple pair of stud earrings, a loose pony with strands framing your face, a spritz of your fave perfume. You don’t need to make a big deal about your appearance. But, just the process of “getting ready” will help with building that anticipation we discussed earlier.
When you sit down to enjoy your Date Night In Box (or a DIY date night in) make sure the space and your mind is free from distraction.
That means no phones. No talk about work or children or business. Anything in the room that draws your attention to stressful thoughts or conversations, move it away for the evening. Arrange for a babysitter or set kids up with their own fun plan for the evening (there is also a box for kids!) or wait until they are tucked in bed. This time together needs to be precious. Prep your meal ahead of time so you aren’t worried about a messy kitchen. And make sure all of the responsibilities for the day have been taken care of before you begin.
Don’t Be Too Serious
The point of this date is to have fun. So, don’t take yourselves too seriously. Laugh and improvise and be silly together. A date full of laughter is not only good for your relationship, but so good for your soul. Focus more on each other than accomplishing all of the tasks in the box perfectly. It will make for a much more enjoyable evening. This shouldn’t feel like a chore so don’t treat it as such.
Don’t Skip The Conversation
Each box comes with a Table Talk portion. You can also opt in for the Faith Night In Box which includes a short devotional you can do together. Don’t skip these conversations! The box is meant to be fun, but it is also meant to help you engage in conversations you wouldn’t have had otherwise. Set aside a good amount of time for discussion (we like to do this over our dinner) and try to be as engaged with one another as you can be. Be open and honest and if the conversation takes some side-trails just roll with it. You never know what you might discover about each other when you start talking.
Make The Date Last Longer
Each box comes with suggestions on how you can continue the date with theme-related movies or seasonal activities. You could make it an entire weekend if you wanted to! But, when you finish the box for the evening I would suggest scheduling in some time to just enjoy each other’s presence. Try stargazing in the summer or enjoying a glass of wine on the deck. Opt for some cuddles by the fire in the winter or walk in the breezy fall air. It’s so important to spend the last part of the evening just taking it all in.
Make It A Priority
If you only take one thing away from this post make it this: date night has to be a priority. Your relationship matters. And it needs care and nurturing. We tried scheduling date nights each month and just deciding what to do last minute and it simply didn’t work for us. But, by having our dates delivered to our door each month we are far more likely to make it a priority. We both get so excited when our box arrives each month.
If you want to give Date Night In Boxes a try, you can click here to get more information. Date night matters and if you have tried all the tricks to keep it at the top of your to-do list and just haven’t quite made it work, I would highly recommend giving Date Night In Boxes a try. And if you and your spouse are interested in growing your faith together as a couple you can also opt in for the Faith Night In and receive the additional discussion guide. Whatever it is you choose to do, just remember that focusing on each other is what really matters.