Years ago, when I first started writing and blogging, I shared a few posts to encourage women who were single and hoping for a relationship. To this day I still receive emails and messages from readers asking for encouragement when faced with singleness. Looking toward my own five year wedding anniversary this year, I thought it might be helpful to bring you encouragement from a woman who is still in her own season of waiting. The truth is, my own single season isn’t as fresh in my mind as it once was. But, I do remember feeling like married women didn’t fully understand me in that season and I longed for encouragement from other single women. That is what I’m bringing you today!
As the very first guest writer here at TSC, my dear friend Cass is bringing you her encouragement and honesty as a young woman still waiting for her love story to unfold. I hope her words will find you in your own season of singleness and help you feel less alone and, more than anything else, greatly encouraged for what the future holds.
A Season Of Singleness
A Season of Singleness is a Season of Waiting — and I am not patient.
Oh, hello! Fellow impatient single lady? Pause that black-hole Instagram scroll you’re on, grab your caffeinated beverage of choice, and let’s chat.
Real talk? Waiting is hard. My patience is the equivalent of a kid in a sweet shop. I want it all, and I want it NOW.
Seasons of Singleness can feel very similar. We’ve all been that odd person out in a crowd of couples, that awkward third wheel with a pasted on smile celebrating someone else’s ‘happy ending’. As if attending weddings aren’t difficult enough, we also have to endure that overplayed song (you know the one), which might as well be a flashing neon sign announcing your singledom—and not in a good way.
You have so much love to give. You feel SO READY to share life with a soulmate. To be swept off your feet. To want and be wanted—to be the Lizzy to someone’s Mr. Darcy. And yet? Prince Charming is nowhere in sight.
I like to joke that mine is on his way—he’s just gotten lost and is too stubborn to ask for directions. (Hey, it’s my story and I’m sticking to it!) But enough about my guy. Let’s talk about yours, and why waiting for him is so hard.
Trusting An Unknown Future To A Known God
I don’t know about you, but I don’t handle unknowns too well. The future, for instance, is a big whopping question mark, and it pokes at that uncomfortable Faith Pressure Point we all have—the one we wince at when the only choice we’re left with is to trust God’s plan—to stare at the unknown and say…
“God, I trust You…. even though I can’t see what waits ahead.”
Or, “God, I trust You… even if it means practicing patience in waiting.”
Or, “God, I trust You… even if it means giving up control over the unknown.”
Or, perhaps hardest of all, “God, I trust You… even if there is no Prince Charming at all.”
There goes my uncomfortable Faith Pressure Point—anyone else?
The Promises You Can Rely On
It’s moments like this where I’ve definitely dabbed at a few heartachey tears, and prayed that ever familiar, “When, God? When will it be my turn?” prayer.
And every time, this bible verse whispers back to me, “I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you, and to give you hope of the future.”
Hope. That is the word I clutch to. In those dark, achy moments of loneliness and longing, the only thing I can lean on is God’s promise of hope. (Jeremiah 29:11).
The promise that He’s got all of my tomorrows figured out, so that I don’t have to worry about a single one of them. (Matthew 6:34).
The promise that I don’t need to be afraid of the daunting unknowns, because He is with me, every single step, offering strength and help the entire way. (Isaiah 41:10).
Yes. Walking through a Season of Singleness is hard—but it’s all the better for knowing that you’re not walking it alone.
Cassandra Joy (or Cass, because that’s a mouthful) is a caffeine addicted Day In The Life vlogger with an incurable case of Creative ADD. From a Stars Hollow town in Ohio, she has a passion for thrifting, Plus Size fashion, and finding the joy in every day. You can find her here:
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